You-Turns that Set Legal Professionals Free
When your legal career takes your life hostage you can reclaim your freedom and personal power to live the life you choose.
Do these scenes sound familiar to you:
- You have a problem that keeps you awake at night.
- You’re in continual conflict with a boss, partner, client, employee, or significant other.
- You don’t have enough time to do the things you want to do.
- There is no one you feel you can go to for trusted advice about your law career.
- You keep fighting the same battle over and over.
These are signs that your life has been taken hostage!
Too frequently, even successful lawyers become captive to these situations. However, there’s a path to freedom. A new way of working and living that allows you to be in control. And have fun, too!
What Mentoring Looks Like for Legal Professionals
The mentoring path varies from client to client, however, there are a few things you can count on when you participate in You-Turn Mentoring.
First, sessions are customized to what is going on in your life now. You’ll find ways around obstacles that are blocking your success as a lawyer. You’ll:
- Develop people and persuasion skills they don’t teach in law school.
- Discover blind spots that interfere with clarity and hold you back.
- End the frustration of fighting the same battles over and over.
Second, you’ll gain a mentor without ulterior motives to guide your career development.
Third, the way you experience life and relationships will change in ways big and small. You’ll seize your personal power to live as you choose to live.
Legal Professional Success Stories
Here are a few client stories to show you the kinds of transformations that happen with legal professionals who participate in You-Turn Mentoring. (Names with asterisks (*) changed to protect confidentiality.)
A shake-up in management at the bank left his friend off the new org chart. David retained Brian to help him through a now disastrous situation. Not only had these sudden changes threatened his business, his firm, and his financial wellbeing, but he had recently broken his leg in a skiing accident.
Busted up and on crutches, David and Brian went to work. Over time, David realized that despite this huge transition he was not powerless to deal with it. He shifted from a position of weakness – of being a victim – to one of power. He came up with a plan and began to execute that plan.
Over several months, David and Brian took action to make sure that the firm did not lose all of the files they were working. David shifted from the one huge client, and through his efforts, garnered several other clients who admired his work but had been hesitant to come to him because he represented their biggest competitor. What had a first appeared to be a big negative was in fact, a huge asset!
As the business shifts were occurring, David found a new appreciation for his personal life. The threat of loss had showed him regret, and he used that regret to begin to forge a new relationship with his family and himself.
Formerly, he had planned any time off around client work and developing new business. He noticed that he was not doing what he wanted to do, both with his life and in his life. Developing a new appreciation for himself, he factored his desires into his decisions. Now he planned family ski trips. He took a trip to the desert and rode his motorcycle with friends for a week. He found what was important to him and went for it. He found a life of fewer regrets and more fun.
David also learned the hazards of putting all his eggs in one basket by letting one client become too big to lose. To this day, he remains a shining example of what can happen when you cast off the role of victim and take on the role of hero.
When she began working with Brian, it became clear that Robin had other priorities in life. Priorities she would not sacrifice for her career. She was raising her daughters as a full-time mom and, despite this, she got great grades. She had great computer abilities and had been in the corporate world. There were aspects of the corporate world she didn’t care for but knew she could fit in there.
Through individual mentoring, Robin found her path. She sought out intern options based on what she thought she would like. She worked for a larger firm for the summer and realized that was not an option for her – she hated it. She worked in the federal system at several levels. She found out quickly what she found rewarding, and what she did not. Over several months, she narrowed her focus so that she could find a career path she enjoyed, saving perhaps years of searching.
In retrospect, her other mentors had advocated the paths they had taken. Their advocacy for these options was not based on her needs but on what they had found they liked, and disliked about their practices. Robin learned a valuable lesson in that we each have strengths, weaknesses, likes and dislikes. That choosing based on her likes was far more important than doing the “right” thing according to someone else.
Robin also learned that a she had control of her future. She learned not to give away her control to someone else. She became hyper-focused on a plan for her future, not someone else’s idea of a good career.